Anabella Cartolano – How hard times make a song
My name is Anabella Cartolano. I come from the city of Neuquén. I moved to Buenos Aires in 2006. The idea was to come here to study… and so I did. I studied Graphic Design at the UBA. I got my degree something like 8 years after I began. At the same time, something unexpected came up: I joined a band in 2011. The band is called Las Ligas Menores. Its made up by four girls and a boy.
Share with us a difficult moment and how you got over it
I believe that there are many “hard times”, because it seems as if life is a bit about hard times, so that one may learn. Break-ups are hard times. They move something very deep within. If I speak for myself, a break-up was a hard time. I believe that every misfortune -or hard time- ends up bringing a good outcome in some other part of life. For me, hard times turn into songs. It’s not like I’m eager for hard times to write a song afterwards, but usually the songs I write for my band come out of very happy moments or very sad moments. Or angry moments. I take this as an easy way of expressing myself.
What would you tell your fourteen- year old self ?
I believe that if I was to go back to that time, I would tell myself to do more, to do much more things. To make the most out of time. At that age, everything seems to far away, and one may think “when I’m older…”, or “when I go to the University…” I remember that when I was that age they told me: “Starting from your twenties and onwards, (time) is going to fly by” And they were right. Nowadays, a week passes by and I’m like “Whaaat?”Friday already?” So yeah, I’d tell myself to make the most out of the time I have. I’d tell myself to do much more things.To do something as simple as reading a book, and to pay more attention to the instruments. Yeah, I would definitely tell myself to make the most out of time.
Tell us about a meaningful moment that changed your life
Given that the first change I had in my body. Was the one they call “becoming a woman” I think that one was, somehow, the most important change I experienced. A change that marks your way, that shapes what you’ll turn into. And… changes… I’ve had a lot. Moving from Neuquén to here, a much bigger city. I think that moving here to the Capital is a bit scary, somehow. Truth is, that living by yourself helps you realize who you are and realize how you manage things.
What does being a woman mean to you?
I think that being a woman nowadays is a very powerful burden. There’s a lot of sensitivity involved. A lot of emotions that… I wish I could say that men feel them the same way, but… (sighs) I believe that there is Man and there is Woman, and somethings just ain’t the same. And I believe that the issue of sensitivity is one of those things. I also believe that within the society that we are immersed today -at least the one here in Buenos Aires- there has been a lot of pointing out that there is a lot of violence towards women. So it’s very important to be responsible, to sense the notion of what it is like to be a woman… Instead of going “Well, I’m a woman so, who cares, it’s all the same”. Take responsability and …speak out for all of those women that will come after us.
Why is self- love so important ?
I think that when you make the things that you like to do, it’s very important to do them with trust. To not only trust in the way you do things, but also trust in the way you portray yourself, in the way you behave with others. That makes a big difference. If you’re in a bad mood, you basically don’t wanna meet anybody. If you are in a good mood, you can go out and have a laugh. So, I believe that being at ease with yourself is very important, because you also affect others. For example, if you’re in a relationship and you’re feeling bad about yourself, it’s very difficult to feel good with your partner. It’s difficult, because we all have our insecurities. But somehow, one must find a way to build up trust in yourself, and go and get things done.
It’s very hard. It’s very hard because I’m not paying attention to my virtues and my flaws constantly. Though, it’s easier to say what’s bad about oneself rather than what’s good. Because, maybe, people are more used to bringing themselves down rather than up. I think that what I love most about myself is something that doesn’t bring me pleasant consequences all the time: is being direct. Being quite head-on and honest. It has some consequences because not everybody likes being direct. Some people avoid talking about issues, they avoid saying: “Hey, this bothered me”. I can’t pretend everyone to be direct, because we are all different. So, I love this about myself, but sometimes it works against me.